The decision to get professional help for your teen or your family is a painful one. Therapy itself is not inexpensive. How can you make the best use of this professional help? • First, approach it with realistic expectations. Change takes time, but each session can be an important step in building communication, confidence and insight. • Second, don’t sabotage […]

What do you when your teen says no to much needed counseling or therapy? • First, express your own willingness to participate. Some teens are willing to participate in family therapy. This way he or she doesn’t feel singled out and stigmatized. Family therapy can be quite effective in handling a serious teen problem. • Second, insist (in a caring […]

Does your teen have headaches, stomachaches and other ailments on school days? Does he express fear of going to school because of problems with peers or a teacher? Does she frequently cry or oversleep on weekday mornings? Does he stubbornly refuse to attend school most of the time, or sneak back home after you’ve left for work? If you answered […]

Communication barriers are habits that get in the way of good parenting communication. These include: 1. Labeling and belittling. Saying things like, “What do you know? You’re just a kid!” or “You’re a disappointment to me.” This paves the way for total lack of communication. 2. Ordering, prescribing and lecturing. Saying things like, “Do it because I said so” or […]

• One of the most important ways to make your teenager listen to you is to listen to him. Show interest in his feelings and opinions, even when you disagree. This helps to build trust and mutual respect. • Second, give clear messages. Express your feelings and needs directly. Giving a clear message may mean saying, “I feel hurt when […]

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The prospect for seeking professional help from a family counselor, a psychologist, or psychiatrist can be a painful one. But your teen or your family may need professional help in the following instances: • One, if you’re caught up in hurtful patterns of behavior that create and perpetuate tension within the family. • Two, if your teen shows signs of […]

Is your teenager depressed? The symptoms may be harder to spot than obvious blues. The following are some of the signs of teenage depression, and are most significant when they occur in combination and over a period lasting more than two weeks. • First, sadness, anxiety and hopelessness. • Second, lack of interest in food or compulsive overeating with resulting […]

Sure you love your teenager, but there may be times when you don’t like him or her very much. There may be days when you enjoy him, and there may be days when you really can’t stand to be with him. This may leave you feeling guilty. You may feel like a bad, uncaring parent. But guess what – you’re […]