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All mothers are working mothers of course. We can remind ourselves that all we can do is the best we can do. We can be our own worst enemies. The “Supermom” is a standard that can only cause guilt and frustration.

If you are going back to work, it is important to discuss with your spouse and kids the expectations you’re going to have about your working and spell out your new personal needs.

• Be prepared for the tradeoffs you’re going to have to make among your three roles as worker, parent, and individual. Each role will predominate sometimes while the other two are forced into the background.

• Reduce decision making time by setting up a fairly tight schedule and following it faithfully, at least at first. Expect the unexpected and be prepared to be flexible; the best planned schedules can be upset by the washer that breaks down or the car that won’t start.

• And as for school activities, let your child help you decide which school activities you will have to forego if that is necessary.

• Finally, be sure your school knows how to reach you at your new job and give them alternative numbers for emergencies.

Vicki Lansky’s practical, common sense approach to parenting is familiar to millions throughout the world. Vicki’s first book, Feed Me, I’m Yours, published in 1974, and still one of the most popular baby/toddler food cookbooks in the country, was followed by The Taming of the C.A.N.D.Y. Monster, a #1 New York Times bestseller. Her other titles include: Toilet Training, Birthday Parties Best Party Tips & Ideas For Ages 1-8, Dear Babysitter Handbook, Welcoming Your Second Baby, Getting Your Child to Sleep … and Back to Sleep, Trouble-free Travel with Children, Baby Proofing Basics and Games Babies Play From Birth to Twelve Months, Koko Bear’s New Potty, A New Baby at Koko Bear’s House, Koko Bear and the New Babysitter, and Koko Bear’s Big Earache. Vicki Lansky’s Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath


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